Q:My baby is 8 months old and I'm still struggling to feel she's really mine.I feel too guilty to discuss it with anyone.Is this normal?

A:It takes a lot of courage to talk about such difficult emotions,but by doing so you've taken the first step to changing things.Around this time,it's common for symptoms of postnatal depression to surface.Typically,new mums feel isolated,guilty,irritable,fatigued,anxious or lacking in confidence.These feelings can delay you bonding with your baby so the sooner you get help the better.
   Talk to those who are close to you,your doctor and health visitor.You'll be surprised to learn that you're not alone in feeling this way.Plus,there are many support groups,as well as activities such as baby massage,that'll help you develop the relationship you want to have with your baby.